Q: What was your inspiration in being a co-author in this book?
A: My wife and I have a strong relationship, but it didn't happen automatically. Those first months were extremely hard. I was unprepared and I figured that had to be why so many marriages fail. Once we got it together through the Word of God, utilizing what is written, I realized that I needed to share what we'd seen work, not just for us but for others.
Q: Has the book changed your marriage from the time you started writing until you finished the book?
A: Definitely. We had to learn even more from each other because we were writing a book together. We had hundreds of discussion points come up while combining our ideas and knowledge. We both got a deeper understanding of one another. We're better for the book. If we didn't make a dime from sales, I like what happened between us personally during the writing process.
Q: What has been your biggest hurdle to clear in marriage?
A: There were a lot for me, but the biggest would be taking full responsibility for my family. Coming from being a single, young man into a family with a teenager, I wasn't prepared to be a dad at all. I wasn't as ready as I thought I was. However, I wasn't about to give up. I'm not a quitter and it's worked for me in marriage. It's not for quitters, that's certain.
Q: What role does the Bible play in your marriage?
A: Everything is the short answer. We allow it to guide us constantly. When we mess up, we go back to the Bible. I'll share a life truth with you that will never change. If we could just possess and utilize the fruit of the Spirit, we'll have everything we need to make our marriages successful, and any other relationship.
Q: Give us one piece of advice.
A: Short answer, you can't be selfish. The unit is more important than selfish ambition. Put your spouse second only to God and your marriage will work out every time.