Sometimes, the beauty of marriage is lost in the day to day drudgery of life. We allow the work of marriage to drown out the wonders of marriage. We focus too hard on the trials of marriage to see the triumphs of marriage.
In marriage, you must remember that you agreed to be united to someone else. You agreed to leave selfishness for selflessness, to leave singleness and become part of an entity, a single entity that is composed of three parts- husband, wife and God. Trying to make a marriage without any of the three components is difficult, if not impossible.
Marriage is a splendid entity in and of itself. That two people in this world of billions can find each other, single each other out and discover love and passion is unbelievable. That two people in a world filled with bitterness, cruelty and hatefulness can trust in their love is miraculous. That two people can hang on in a society that feeds on lust, betrayal, adultery, fornication, lewdness, independence, freedom from anything that is difficult, a society that says chase happiness at any cost, that any two people make it through those things is the most beautiful thing in the world.
You don't have to be married 10, 20, or 50 years to enjoy and celebrate and feel like you've accomplished something. Getting married was an accomplishment. Loving each other was an accomplishment. Each day that you survive the wilderness of life together is an accomplishment. I have seven years of relationship with my husband, only three of which we've shared in the bonds of matrimony and I believe that small amount of time is too large for me to give up on him, on me, on us, on the power of God, and on the potential we have as a couple. The beauty of our marriage is in the fact that it is flawed with the glorious and inglorious, yet it is not destroyed or devalued. It increases in value as we engage in battle with and prevail over the temptations that arise to threaten the union, the entity that is bigger than either of us, yet composed of us.
Your marriage is beautiful. Treat it with respect and reverence. Love your love that is shared enough to protect it. And when it seems too heavy for you to hold, trust in the master of your entity- GOD.