Saturday, September 27, 2008

What Are Your Marriage Pointers

As a married woman or man, give us some of the things that makes your marriage better. Share your pointers.

15 comments:

ChristiS said...

Communication is the key, I believe. And that means communication about feelings, what is going on at work, scheduling, everything!
Prayer is another strong component that makes our marriage work. We pray for each other and our family often!

Janna said...

We have started going on walks together (brisk walks but we can still talk) and our communication has skyrocketed. With 6 kids we really need that one-on-one time!

Janna
ryanx6 at msn dot com

PastorMac's Ann said...

It takes God's help to love our spouses with the kind of love that the Bible talks about in 1 Corin. 13. Christ's love in us gives us the ability to "bear all things, believe all things, trust all things; to not keep a record of wrongs, to not be easily offended, to be patient and kind..." On and on and on. We have to depend on Him daily - moment by moment - to be the kind of husband or wife that He wants us to be.

Lacresha on Writing, Women and Wisdom said...

Absolutely Pastor. Good pointers, Christi and Janna.

Keep those pointers rolling in.

Holly said...

Trust. I didn't marry my husband to play mom to him, or for him to play dad to me. If I felt I had to "keep tabs on him" or vice versa, we'd have nothing.

Respect.

Being able to act independently; if I want to see a movie and he doesn't, I go. If he wants to watch the game and I don't, he does. If WE have better plans together, then that's what we do. But we're not joined at the hip - it's okay to have our own interests that aren't shared.

conarnold said...

I agree that communication is very important, as well as trust. A sense of humor is helpful too, as well as being willing to forgive.

unwriter said...

Three words is all it takes, God, Trust, and Respect, for each other, yourself, and above all, God.

Debbie Todd said...

Wonderful points. Here's one: learn to power of the words I'm sorry. It still works.

Olivia said...

Give each other room to make mistakes. Many will be made. If you take it to heart, your marriage won't last.

Kimberly's Book and Author Picks said...

Know your place. That's a HUGE thing, BIG.

Lensey C. Hayes said...

A pointer that works for us is taking two moments to be silent without interrupting what your spouse is saying.
It's Priceless. Normally, many misunderstandings are squashed within that moment or two.

Marcus Grubbs said...

Lensey listening is hard some of the times but not always. When i just listen to my wife, she is all smiles and thinks go smooth

Loraine C. Keith-McCauley said...

Coming from an old lady, 78, I think I know a thing or two about marriage. I got hitched when I was 14 or 15, hard to say which. It was either the day before or the day after my birthday. My husband and I are happy. We have 13 children and 41 grandchildren. We made it work with and without money. You need to love each other. No matter what tips we give, it comes back to love. I am ordering a few copies of the book. I love supporting other Christians. That's what we are called to do. At this age, money doesn't matter. Looks don't- sex don't- householding don't- all that matters is love.

Sharon said...

I believe that investing time in getting the tools, help, information or whatever you need to make your relationship deepen and grow is crucial. The basis for being willing to do this is the commitment to covenant in marriage - until you are parted by death. It sounds like this book will be a fantastic tool for all of us who want to improve our marriages.

Jo said...

I believe that it is communicating with one another and being there for one another. We need to listen to what the other has to say even if we don't agree and than both of us decide what is the right thing to do.

Blessings,
Jo
ladijo40(at)aol(dot)com