Friday, April 10, 2009

Lovemaking - Keeping it Real

Now, I'm somewhat of a southern belle. I am never comfortable talking about sex. It's so personal. It's like using the restroom. Everyone does it, but no one with manners discusses it publicly. LOL!

Anyway, sex is a part of marriage. Many couples report that their sex life is a direct reflection of every other part of their relationship. And to be honest, for some, that is the biggest problem. Problems that happened outside of the bedroom are brought to the bed and couples turn their backs to one another. This can be a detriment.

Now, I'm not a believer that sex cures problems, but lack of sex definitely creates more of them. Women and men respond differently to outside stimuli. Men can be very upset (or many of them) but still function sexually with their wives, often times being much more open to working through issues after sex. Women are different. They can only respond appropriately when they feel like they are in a safe environment, or their needs are met. A man can have a disconnect notice and still perform. A woman, on the other hand, often times find her mind traveling to all that she need while sex is going on and gets nothing out of it.

In fact, more than one woman has went more than ten years without experiencing orgasms, or even pleasure. That is why we're not going to further discuss sex. We are going to talk about lovemaking, which is a different animal altogether. Lovemaking begins way before the bedroom comes into the picture. It is the simple things in life. It is the small thoughtful things a husband does, the sweet things a wife does. Lovemaking happens way less often than sex and marriages suffer daily. Today, decide you are going to go home and make love to your spouse. Start the moment you walk through the door. Don't go straight for the bedroom but begin on an emotional level. Today is your day to connect with your spouse.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Nice post.

princessdominique said...

I enjoyed this post and I will be a constant visitor. I'm LindaDominique from Twitter!

WK said...

Very nice and great post. And so very true, thank you!
WendyK

The Belle in Blue said...

I've heard it said that, for women, foreplay begins from the moment you both wake up in the morning. Every single interaction during the day influences the way she will respond to lovemaking that night. I tend to agree.

BTW, Lacresha, I'm about as Southern Belle as you can get, but I don't mind talking about sex (or including it in my books) as long as it's between two people who are in love. Love is the key!

LaTonya Bynum said...

Just discovered your blog today while looking for Arkansas bloggers. I really enjoyed this post. We all can stand to be reminded of what lovemaking really is. Thanks!