Sometimes in marriage, we tend to take things personal that are anything but. Couples need to learn how to understand moods. Moods are not always caused by outside stimuli. Even when they are, that stimuli is not normally marriage related.
There are three things couples should make a regular part of their relationship:
1~ Always give the other party room to breathe and unwind before confronting them with home issues if at all possible
2~ Never become offended or paranoid when your mate does not want to talk
3~ Learn what relaxes your spouse and try to give them that several times a week