If You're Going to Strive...

If you are going to strive, strive together with your husband/wife. Amazingly, even in a time when everyone seems to be driven and goal oriented, couples are often striving for two different things, or the same things in different ways. They are wearing themselves out and all the while feeling unappreciated and alone. Which all brings me to this post.

Imagine being physically tied to someone. He wants to go east. She wants to go west. They both take off going two different directions. What happens next is one reason many couples experience friction in their lives. The line in the rope tightens as they pull in two different directions. Then, it becomes a battle of strength. The strongest one ends up dragging the weaker one. How far and how long do you think they'll make it? More importantly, how long do you think it'll take before bitterness takes over?

If you gotta strive, do it together. Sit down and discuss your plans, goals and fears. Make a singular plan for your family and work that thing together, doing the same things or at least working in harmony with one another until you've accomplished your goals. That way, no one is unnecessarily bitter or tired. Both parties know they have someone who is in this fight with them. The bond grows closer, forming something many will never understand - self-sacrificing love.

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