HAPPY FOUR YEARS TO US!

Today marks our 4th year of marriage. Not four amazingly easy years, but four years of leaning on God and following His plan for marriage. It takes day-by-day trying and praying but we've made it this far by faith.


Celebrate with us by purchasing a copy of our special marriage building tool, TRUTH AND INTIMACY: A COUPLE'S JOURNAL book. Order in the sidebar. God bless and keep you all!

Today's Assignment

For today, we give you a simple assignment. If you read this too late over in the evening, then use it for tomorrow.


Commit yourself to complimenting three things about your spouse, sincerely taking in their reaction. Don't just rattle something off. Put some thought into it and compliment three things that really impress you or that you've found attractive in your mate. For this assignment, no physical compliments. We'll get to those later. Have fun!

What does commitment mean if it isn't tried? Unfortunately, most of us make commitments based upon favorable circumstances. That's common. It can be found anywhere. But marriage isn't for those who cannot endure tough times. Commitment is a promise that remains in place rather times are good or bad, prosperous or skim, rather in times of health or illness, times of boredom or excitement. Commitment isn't commitment if it cannot endure trials.


In these times, everyone is looking for someone to believe in them, to witness their lives, to understand their pain, to share in their joys and stand beside them when all others run away. That is supposed to be the beauty of marriage. Today, renew your commitment with your mate. Don't wait on some ceremony or big date. Do it now and do it everyday. Don't see yourself as a lone person anymore. See yourself as part of an entity much larger and greater than you and stay fully invested in it.


If you need more encouragement, pick up a copy of our book, Truth and Intimacy: A Couple's Journal in the sidebar or on Amazon.com. We look forward to helping other couples and to all feedback. God bless!

Do Your First Works AGAIN

Do you remember the times when you sent each other love letters, texts, emails or all of the above? In the beginning, you sat around and thought of things to do to impress your amante, your lover. You wanted to please him/her. You wanted to win the heart and the mind of this person. What happened?


Did you allow life to come in and rob you of your romantic connection with your spouse? Did hard times steal the joy from your relationship? It doesn't have to remain that way. It's never too late to pick up where you left off, even if it does feel awkward and out-of-place. Just like in the beginning, you can choose to make your lover's thoughts and feelings important again. You can choose to please the person you share your bed with in new ways. It's really just a choice, albeit a difficult one if it has been awhile since you two shared that kind of bonding. Nevertheless, don't let it be said that you had the tools to work your marriage out yet refused to use them.


If you hadn't already, use the ordering link in the sidebar and get a copy of our marriage book, Truth and Intimacy: A Couple's Journal, and be blessed with encouraging techniques to improve your relationship today!

Growing Together

Marriage isn't something that automatically happens. It's something that has to be worked at daily. And even though I use the word "work", that does not mean that it's all bad. If you've married someone, some kind of bond had to have been established beforehand. With marriage, you are simply doing what you were doing and learning about each other to keep that bond growing stronger, deeper and more meaningful.


Don't let your marriage suffer from laziness. Choose to listen, to learn, to share, to care, to nurture and to grow together by going back to your first works - wooing and romancing, talking and laughing together.


My husband is my best friend. We share everything, even the painful stuff. And through the good and bad, we grow together.

Room to Grow

There are times when relationships change. Because people are mutable, relationships by default are too. Things change, but that doesn't mean you can't protect your marriage in the midst of those changes that occur.

As you move through life together with your mate, remember that your spouse is human. That person is changing, evolving as lessons are learned and situations happen. Give your mate room to grow and choose to grow with them. Don't get so comfortable in the relationship that you begin to take your spouse for granted, assuming everything will always be how it has always been. Rather, look for the opportunities to share growth together. Share in all times, good and bad. This is the makings of a good marriage!

Relationships Need

Relationships need to be fed. Relationships need watering which means that the rain has to fall sometimes. Relationships also need sunshine which means it is imperative that you smile and laugh together and at each other sometimes. Relationships need to evolve, which means some things need to stay loose, maneuverable, etc.

Let your relationships have room to grow and expand, but know there are times it will feel like it is contracting and that's okay too.

Married but Separate

Today's thought is just a few quick lines to make married couples reflect upon their marriage vows. 

Some people are married in every sense of the word. Others are married legally but separate in every meaningful way as it concerns oneness. Most divorces that happen in the courtroom are just prolonged extensions of a separation that happened long before the couple would admit they have a problem. And still some are about as useless as a wooden nickel because the couple never accepted each other fully and hence were never truly married.

If you're going to be married, listen to and ponder your vows. Keep them at the front of your heart and mind. Be married to one another in every sense of the word.

Truth and Intimacy Testimonial

We received another testimonial of our book, Truth and Intimacy: A Couple's Journal. Please read below and feel free to share it on your blog, website or social networking site.

My husband and I were on the brink of divorce. I am so happy I heard about your book on Facebook through a mutual friend. We were both a little reluctant so we skilled all the reading and headed straight to the back where the interactive exercises were. After the second one, we discovered a whole lot of misconceptions about one another. We went back and read the book, doing one chapter a day and trying to apply it. Things improved by day 10, chapter 10. Now that we've completed the book, we have a new understanding and a closer marriage. Great book.   ~ Shirley, a Facebook user

Embracing the Person

A couple that refuses to accept one another as they currently stand is a couple destined for rocky roads. An embrace is empty if you are embracing an idea yet to come rather than the person actually before you.

It is imperative for the health of your relationship that you learn to fully love, fully accept and fully support the person you married. If he/she is to become anyone greater, it will be inspired and fueled by unadulterated love and belief in your mate.

Beautiful Qualities

When was the last time you took a moment to study the beauty of your spouse? I don't mean the physical only. Maybe your spouse is the most patient person you know; maybe the funniest person you know; maybe the most loyal and devoted person you know; maybe the most humble; maybe the trustworthiest; maybe the sweetest; maybe the most giving person. Whatever those beautiful qualities are, take a moment to appreciate them and then tell them so.

Oneness in Sharing

Marriage is most beautiful when shared among two people who are honest enough with one another as to share their weaknesses and fears. When that happens, you witness two people who are absolutely one because they've chosen to trust one another with something I can hardly trust themselves with. The deeper we share, the closer we become. Don't be guilty of sharing more of you with outsiders than with your own spouse. Begin building that oneness today by sharing yourselves with one another.